Friday, February 4, 2011

Love in Television and Movies

This has been a kind of pet peeve of mine while watching movies and TV. In almost every show there is the point where the guy chases down the girl and confesses his unyielding love and devotion for her. In this conversation the guy will ALWAYS tell her just how beautiful she is. Always a good thing to say to a girl sure but the thing I can't wrap my mind around is that well I don't think beauty is really a good reason to love a person. Sure physical attraction is a must in any relationship, after all the desire to see the other person naked is really the only difference between a good friendship and a actual relationship.

A persons physical appeal is just a result of good luck in a combination of genes when being born. Really the only physical part a person has any control over is their weight, and/or the use of make up and even that is superficial. So all of these people attribute the main reason they are in love because they just really dig the way a person looks, really the shallowest reason ever to just like someone. Whenever I have touted the reasons of my affection onto someone I always made it a point to to tell them things about them that made them desirable to me, leaving the physical parts somewhere in the middle or an afterthought, trying to show that there was more to her appeal to me than just their aesthetic appeal for me. But even then I had a friend of mine tell me how when she had a guy compliment her, she was confused that he would just say how she liked how smart she was. I had to explain at least from my point of view that he was kinda doing what I like to do, pointing out personality aspects as a reason for attraction instead of just saying that he likes her because she's hot. But she still would rather be called pretty from what I gathered.

I dunno, this is just kind of a ramble more than anything else. I just find it weird that in the way our culture places such value in physical beauty when really that is one of the least important part of a relationship since just looking at something beautiful can only make you so happy.

29 comments:

  1. In order of importance, I look for personality, niceness, prettyness, and intelligence.

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  2. very true words right here. nice insights brah. following.

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  3. Everyone has their own definition of attractive, and there's nothing we can do about that. I think that the only way to succeed with a girl is to cover all bases and address the physical attractions along with all the other ones.

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  6. (...) "after all the desire to see the other person naked is really the only difference between a good friendship and a actual relationship."
    Have to disagree with you there. It isn't just the desire to "see them naked", but also th strong desire to be with that person, etc

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  7. That's very nice, thanks for sharing. :)

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  8. @fang: Granted yes that statement is a bit of a over simplification but I do believe it to be mostly true. After all sex is what keeps a bromance from crossing over to the gay side of things. You can be good friends with someone, want to be with/hang out with them and have them be a part of your life, but sex is the factor that changes it from platonic to romantic. Wanting to be with them and having them in your life is just a good plus to have in the relationship.

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  9. Telling a chick is beautiful is a nice and appropriate thing to say in that kind of situation I guess. It might not make sense but being beautiful is a goal every woman has.

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  10. Yeah, compliments are never bad. Even if a girl claims to not care about it, just watch how miserable she gets when nobody compliments her appearance anymore. Although it's kind of a cheap trick when confessing your love, if the guy is really concerned and not only after physical beauty, he'd probably not mention it. Or it's desperation.

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  11. actually 3d people aren't beautiful at all.

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  12. Yeah I agree. It's not right, but part of the human psyche.

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  14. that's why i don't even watch tv anymore

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  15. I don't watch tv for a different reason, can't afford cable. hahaha Nice post.

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  16. Excellent post, enjoyed the read. Following you!

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  17. You speak the truth man, anyway, I dont think saying how beatiful is someone it's just because you want to see him/her naked, I think you can find someone atractive in a non-sexual way.

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  19. i always thought in the mind of a guy that if the person is attractive enough you'll make sacrifices as far as liking her personally.

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  20. ha well that's about the least romantic thing I've ever heard, though in reality that's probably what happens more often then not. Ideally though I would like to think the opposite is what should happen.

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  21. Hey, nice post, looking forward to the next ones. :)

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  22. I think attraction is based on physical appearance but love is based on much more.

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  23. But, you know, attraction is important too.
    Following and supporting!

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  24. its true, but we can't do anything about it

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  25. Nice post, enjoyed reading it!

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  26. you make a good point, its incrediblly cheesey.

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