I find that inspiration to write tends to strike me right around midnight or in the wee hours of the morning. Seeing as how I started this blog to get myself writing again and to use this as an outlet for whatever viewpoints I have, seems like a waste if I didn't put these thoughts on here while they are still fresh. So technically this is the 2nd (the first one being my rant about the use of love in TV and movies) out of hopefully many in a series me rambling about whatever.
Anyways one thing that always struck me as odd is how prostitution, stripping and pornography has always been construed as a objectification of women and a product of chauvinism and the like. Frankly I've always viewed it as the opposite. In all of the above professions it's the women who actually hold the power in there domain.
With porn I will admit that some of it can be rather fucked up, but really in the internet age if you really want to find something that's fucked up it's out there, on both ends of the spectrum. But one thing that I've noticed in a lot of porns is that really if they are attempting to have any kind of "story" in it, it's the woman who is instigating the sex to the point of bordering on sexual harassment, but well it's a porn and everyone leaves happy. I haven't really done any research on this but the top internet porn providers are probably Brazzers, bangbros and naughty america. All of their porns follow a sort of theme, as in they play to a niche for the viewer like milfs/sex at work/sex at school etc. Way most of these usually go is that the female star usually is in trouble or see's a man that she wants. If she's in trouble she'll use her body to get out of it. If she see's a guy she wants then she'll keep making advances despite the guy saying no until they both are going at it. I know it's just porn but really the underlying theme here is that these woman are using their feminine wiles to either get what they want or to escape any sort of consequences. These women are the ones in power and we (males) are totally powerless. Even in some of the rough sex porn while the woman is receive the brunt of it, it's done under her allowance, she controls everything.
Strippers are slightly different but still follow the same lines. I've talked to some girls about this and what I gathered from their feelings on the topic is that the thought of guys sitting around and just staring at a girl who's dancing for them naked is demeaning. Granted when you paint it in that light it looks kinda bad but let's take step back and look at the whole picture shall we? Who is really the one that is really being demeaned here? the person dancing and showing off their money? Or the patrons, who are need to see a woman's body so bad that they are actually paying for it? Not that I'm knocking guys who go to strip joins, I've been to a gentleman's club once or twice in my day and I rather enjoyed myself there but you gotta look at it for what it is. The women there have what we desire and they are presenting it for us, but at best we only get a tease of a lap dance while there and that's after having to pay even more for it plus tip.
As for prostitution well let me just start this off saying I have no idea why it's illegal in any free country. But here in the states, everyone seem to has it in their head that sex is a bad thing and I have never been able to wrap my head around that. If you can pay a massage therapist to run their hands all over you in order for you to be RELAXED and to feel good or in other words, for PLEASURE, then why the hell can't I pay a girl to ride me? Because I honestly feel the most relaxed and pleasure post-orgasm. There is the question of safety for the working girls (or boys, they are out there) either be it personal or health wise (diseases and the like). But if it was federally regulated with mandatory health check ups, which are required for other such professions, then I don't see why we can't do that for this job as well. There is the question of is it moral to have such things legal, well firstly I don't think any laws should be made off of morals. Laws are their for our safety and for the good of society. Having sex available for purchase won't make the buildings burn and anarchy reign. Some would say it's sexist to try and buy a woman for sex, but really take the sex out of the equation we all are whores on some level. We sell our time, our minds, our patience, our bodies in other ways to our jobs so we can get by and make money. Also along with the stripping thing, is it really sexist when once again it's the woman in control of the whole transaction? The lady of the night sets all the rules, and the buyer is a person who is in need of the product of sex to the point that they have to buy it.
Maybe society still looks down on these things because if my conclusions are actually right then it just shows that woman are in control of more things than we'd like, and in a male dominated society, it's scaring the old white men shitless. More I think about it the more I think we all got it wrong and that humans are more Matriarchal as a species rather than Patriarchal.
I dunno, it's almost 3 am here, I have to get up for school in a about 3 hours...I should sleep.